Midwifing Death/Death Doula/End of Life Consultant/Guide

Bit confusing?  These terms are interchangeable.

Quite simply a death Midwife/Doula is a person who walks alongside you and your family so you can be empowered to have the conversations and make choices around the time you have left.

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Introducing Lissa Carmela - A Local of Bellingen - Serving the Mid North Coast/Coffs Coast

Lissa Carmela is a Death Doula, as well as a Registered Nurse with palliative care experience. Some of the services offered are: Active listening “holding space” for expectations, wishes, fears, challenges and what ever else needs to be heard…be heard, and assistance with the planning in working towards a positive death with meaning. This involves meeting people where they are at within themselves; providing information and practical education around death and dying; and offering emotional and spiritual support with respect for culture, beliefs and ritual.

About Me: I am a registered nurse with experience in palliative care and have always felt a sense of reverence when working with the dying. One of the things I loved in my nursing profession was that I could make a difference in somebody’s life when they were most vulnerable. To be there in those tender moments is an honour.

When faced with my own mortality in the past due to a health condition, it sparked an interest in me about the transition of death and dying; how death is perceived in our society; and how different cultures approach death and dying. My process also brought me to a place of acceptance and peace around my own mortality. As a result of this learning and my nursing experience, I feel passionate about supporting those who are facing the end of their lives, and their loved ones, in working towards having a positive death experience.

I have completed the Midwifing Death Correspondence Course with Michael Barbato, and Life Options Death Doula Training. Through this work and other practices I have been able to come to a place of embracing life today, and hope to support others faced with death and dying to do the same.

Lissa Carmela

Death Doula - End of Life Support



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Introducing Sim Elizabeth - A Local of Bellingen - Serving the Mid North Coast/Coffs Coast


Sim Elizabeth is a Death Doula /End of Life Guide experienced in Bereavement Care and Ritual for those dying and their loved ones. Together with you, Sim will help navigate the deep liminal space of the unknown with compassionate listening, presence and respect. A Death Doula provides non-medical care, support and empowerment of the dying and their families while living with their dying.

Blue Wren Wisdom - In Love, Life and Death manifested in honour of my mum Sandra. Mum was always a big supporter in my deathing work over the years. She watched me begin my journey starting in Bereavement Care in 2004 with NALAG (National Association of Loss and Grief), and she observed my expansion into supporting those dying at home through Home Hospice. I am trained in Spiritual care for the Dying, have worked as an outreach crisis worker in Postvention, facilitated and coordinated support groups in Lifeline Mid North Coast and I am a nurse and funeral worker. However when it comes to your own personal journey being with your loved ones in their dying days and doing your own Griefwork along the way, this adds whole new dimensions to the care experience.

About: Sim moved to Bellingen in 2004 where she stepped onto her path of working with the dying and bereaved beginning as a volunteer with NALAG (National Association of Loss and Grief) for the then Bellingen Shire Bereavement Support Service.  Sim continued her training with Home Hospice in Sydney to become an outreach worker in Coffs Harbour to support those dying at home and their families with experience in Spiritual Care for the Dying

Sim has worked in Crisis Intervention for those impacted by suicide with Standby (Postvention) and facilitated the Suicide Bereavement Support Group with Lifeline North Coast NSW. Sim has a well -developed understanding of bereavement and how to support the dying and their families as a Death Doula and experience with advocating for those who are ill. Sim is currently also working as a nurse on a casual basis, however supporting those who are at the end of life is her passion. Sim supported her mum and grandmother through their Palliative Care journey, followed by their death within 2 weeks of each other. A lifetime of experience of the loss and grief that life brings, Sim continues to see Death as a Rite of Passage for those who are facing the end of their life and their loved ones who walk beside them as carers and intimate supporters.

Sim Elizabeth -

Death Doula - End of Life Guide - Bereavement Care

Ritual and Ceremony

04033 33698

email: bluewrenwisdom@gmail.com

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Please note that you do not need to use Barefoot Funerals as your funeral providor to engage with these doulas.  We of course offer continuity of care regardless of your choices.

Please contact Sim or Lissa to discuss your needs.  Pricing varies dependant on the needs of the families.  Packages are available to make this affordable.